By Kate Kripke
Each woman who becomes a mother wants to have a solid, strong, and healthy attachment with her baby. And with that, I think it’s fair to assume, each mother fears on some level that this will not occur. Some moms worry that they won’t have the tools to bond and attach appropriately because their own relationships with their parents are conflicted. Others fear that they won’t be able to create an attachment as strong as the one that they had with their own mom or dad. Others find that their histories have contributed to a sort of “overcompensation” with their own kids, and they feel that the only way to attach is to give all of themselves. And some moms may feel that they don’t have the knowledge or experience to attach appropriately with their little ones. Almost every mom who struggles with a mood and anxiety disorder like PPD worries about attachment. Attachment, it seems, is one of those hidden dilemmas that makes early mothering feel overwhelming for most of us.